I received an automatic DUI for declining a drug test and spent the night in jail. I should have been charged for a felony, but by the grace of God, my charges would be dropped if I went to rehab. While I still relapsed a few times after rehab, it was because of rehab that I was able to get back on track even when I would fall. Using the drug in the first place — that is a choice. It takes over your mind. I never want to sound like I am not taking responsibility for my actions, but the first inhale of crack that I took was not my choice.
I was taken advantage of. That part of it was not my fault. Because of the strength of that drug, it was an automatic addiction. It is insanely powerful. First off, every type of addiction is different. An addiction to pornography is different than an addiction to gambling. An addiction to crack cocaine is way different than an addiction to alcohol. Addictions to illegal drugs take things to a whole new level.
The intensity of the addiction and the high is much greater than other types of drugs. Many times, there is not a predicating factor that leads to the addiction. For example, many alcoholics drink to overcome pain.
With illegal drugs, many times people first try them out of curiosity, and once they experience that first high, it is extremely difficult to stop.
If I could explain one thing to people married to addicts, it would be this: Continuing in a hardcore drug addiction is not a choice. It seems like it is, and when the addiction started it was a choice, but in the middle of the addiction, there are so many psychological phenomenons that are happening that the addict is not in their right mind.
Many times, the addict wants to quit. The addict wants to no longer be chained to their addiction. Logic is not part of their mindset. As much as they want to quit, something else has taken control of their lives. I hope that people married to addicts understand this: The addict is not choosing the drug over you. The addict is not choosing the drug over your children. The most important thing that you can do is protect yourself and your children.
Learn as much as you can about the drug and the addiction. Join a support group. Seek mentorship and guidance from people who have been in your situation. Especially if there are children involved, seek safety. A child should not be exposed to that kind of environment. If you are still wanting to stand for your marriage, I applaud you. Understand that the stand will not be easy. Understand that the stand will not be over a short period of time. Try and find someone who has been where your spouse is as an addict and has overcome that addiction to speak to your spouse, especially in moments where your spouse is sober.
If the opportunity to go to rehab presents itself, encourage and support your spouse in attending rehab. Come to the Marriage Helper Workshop to get back on track with your marriage. If you are struggling with an addiction of any kind, you understand that it consumes your life. If your addiction is anything like mine was with crack cocaine, then I understand that all you want to do in life is chase that high.
Nothing else matters. They all occurred as a result of my drug use. I would go days without sleeping or eating. Crack addicts typically have problems getting or staying employed and so have no legal way of financing their crack addiction.
As an alternative, crack addicts are often working as prostitutes or committing crimes in order to pay for their crack addiction. Crack addicts commonly lose their family, friends and all social contacts due to their crack addiction. Crack addiction is the only thing a crack addict cares about and the rest of their life simply falls away; every moment is used getting high or figuring out how, when and where to get high.
A crack addict may start as a cocaine or other drug user. A crack addict typically has an unhappy home life or other stresses or problems.
The addict begins using drugs or alcohol to escape from the stresses of their life. The addict may feel like they are just "partying" but, in fact, they are trying to cope with unhappiness.
At some point, the user tries crack and a crack addiction takes hold. Crack addiction can happen almost immediately. The crack addict then starts to use crack to deal with stress and crack quickly becomes the focus of life. At the beginning of crack addiction, the crack addict may feel they have their addiction under control. Crack addicts can binge on crack for hours or days and then abstain for days, giving the impression they are in control of their drug use.
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